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by Bethany Rees

Decorations at Christmas create a feeling of joy and excitement like no other. 

From the twinkling lights to the garland and the carefully placed figurines to the family tree ornaments, Christmas is a wonderful time of the year. Just seeing homes, stores, and streets transform into a magical Christmas wonderland has us feeling merry and bright... and our wallets feeling light! But while the holiday decor can instantly fill us with Christmas cheer, the holly jolly feelings don’t always extend to our relationships—especially at those family gatherings.

Yes, Christmas brings with it some unique challenges, namely that small, pesky thing we call “family conflict.” 

Whether it’s Grandma Betty’s "feedback" on how you've changed since last year or Uncle Jim’s bold opinions on every controversial topic under the sun, there's potential for things to get heated faster than a mug of mulled cider. So, as we focus on decking our halls this season, let’s also pray we don’t end up decking each other.

1. Remember, You’re Not the Spirit of Christmas Past

When Cousin Karen brings up that embarrassing story from your teenage years for the hundredth time, it might be tempting to roll your eyes or remind her of her own “less-than-angelic” moments. But before you go full Ebenezer Scrooge, remember Proverbs 19:11: “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.” 

If we want to keep our gatherings brawl-free, a little patience and forgiveness can go a long way. Plus, in the grand scheme of things, maybe that “awkward phase” story isn’t worth holding a grudge over… no matter how many times you’ve heard it.

2. Let Peace Begin with You

Romans 12:18 gives us a powerful piece of advice: “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” 

Now, this verse has an interesting phrase—as far as it depends on you. We can't control other people’s behavior (if we could, Aunt Sue would finally stop bringing her “famous” fruitcake every year), but we can control our own reactions. So, when someone brings up a touchy topic or makes a less-than-graceful comment, try to stay calm. You could even respond with a smile and say, “Let’s keep it merry and bright!” You might just be surprised at how much that diffuses the tension.

3. Don’t Forget to “Pause and Pray”

When things get tense, take a deep breath, send up a quick prayer for patience, and ask the Holy Spirit to help you respond with love. 

After all, Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God” (Matthew 5:9). You don’t have to single-handedly solve every family dispute or straighten out everyone’s life choices at the Christmas table—sometimes, the best gift you can give is a prayer for peace and a moment of silence.

4. Remember What Christmas is All About

Amidst the potential brawls and festive décor, let’s not lose sight of the true reason we gather: to celebrate the birth of Christ, the Prince of Peace. 

When things get tough, remind yourself that Jesus didn’t come to save the “perfect” people—he came to save the messy ones. Our families may be far from perfect, but they’re ours. So, this Christmas, let’s approach each moment with grace, love, and a good dose of humor.

So, as you deck your halls this year, remember to leave any boxing gloves firmly packed away. 

May your gatherings be filled with laughter, your hearts with forgiveness, and your family room free from (physical) family brawls. After all, what’s the point of decking our halls if we forget the love that makes them truly shine?

Know Better. Do Better. Live Better. Be a Peacemaker This Christmas.

Rocks before Sand!

Scripture: 

“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” ~ Romans 12:18

Theme Song: 

Robert Earl Keene's Merry Christmas from the Family

References Used:

• The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Text Edition: 2016. Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.