Love Fool

better living faith love marriage Feb 11, 2023

4 minute read
By Bethany Rees

I guess you could call me a Love Fool.

I love LOVE!

I love all romantic movies and rom coms!

But my husband of almost 23 years hates them. And for good reason.

He says they showcase unrealistic love and there’s always a dilemma that has one person breaking their commitment with someone else to be with “the one they truly love.”

Ouch! Way to pop my Love Fool bubble Jason!

But what about my absolutely favorite movie… The Notebook adapted by a Nicholas Sparks book by the same name.

Surely this sweet story about young lovers growing old together and staying together even through the terrible disease of Alzheimer’s can’t be bad.

I mean, Noah declares his undying love for Allie.

And then even when they’re old, he stays with her all the time. He reads to her to help her remember. Heck, they even die in bed together.

Surely, of all the romantic movies out there, The Notebook is one that would pass Jason’s “integrity of the relationship” test?

Nope! It doesn’t. Because if you’ve seen the movie, Allie was engaged to another man…a good man. And she left him for her old boyfriend…because he was her “true love.”

So you know...Jason is 100% right.

Watching romantic movies and romantic comedies totally taints our perspectives on what love truly is.

Forgive my pun, but because of movies and TV shows, we romanticize (describe in an idealized or unrealistic fashion) what love is or should look and feel like.

And I’m really starting to pay attention to the bad visuals of love now that I have an adolescent daughter. I don’t want her to have a skewed picture of what love is. I don’t want her to be a “LoveFool” like I was.

Love is NOT romance.

Love is NOT attraction.

Love is NOT sex.

And TRUE love is NOT even a feeling.

Love is a choice. Love is a characteristic of God. Love is a covenant and a promise to another person. And yes, love is even taking out the trash or serving a meal without it being expected.

Love is…

"patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

~1 Corinthians 13:4-7

The love described in 1st Corinthians isn’t a flashy fancy love “as seen on TV.” It may sound a little more less dramatic and boring, but oh how this kind of love is deep and unwavering. This love is not situational…it’s AGAPE love! And that’s the kind of love I want in my relationship(s).

So as you go about this Valentine’s Day with all the LOVE and romance in the air…don’t be a LoveFool!

Don’t fall for all the sappy crap from movies made of fake relationships and big drama or romance to keep audiences watching.

Choose to AGAPE love as the Lord loves.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

P.S. If you haven't read our post "Valentine's Day: What's Love Got to do with it?", you can read it here.

Know Better. Do Better. Live Better. Don’t Be A Love Fool.

Rocks before Sand!

Scripture:

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

~1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Theme Song:

The Cardigans - LOVEFOOL

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